Vol 4 - UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Article Series
UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Vol. 4 – " The Dark Clouds At Home (And Abroad)" By Kandayia Ali By now, you're probably wondering—how do these habits manifest through unspoken darkness in the household and society for both the abused and the abuser? This is one of the most piercing truths of trauma: darkness doesn’t always scream—it settles silently into habits, dynamics, and energy. It becomes an atmosphere. It becomes culture. It becomes the unspoken religion of dysfunction. The Abused: How Darkness Lives in You 1. Silence as Survival- speaking up equals danger, so emotions are absorbed but never released. 2. Self-Shrinking- apologizing when not wrong, lowering dreams, developing CPTSD symptoms. 3. Internalized Abuser- repeating cruelty inward: self-sabotage, shame, humiliations replayed. 4. Frozen Joy- difficulty trusting peace or love, sabotaging opportunities as “safety.” The Abuser: How Darkness Uses Them 1. Generational Possessio...