Vol 6 - UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Article Series
UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Vol. 6 – The REAL Pain? Is In The Silence… By Kandayia Ali - IAMOmni This is sacred ground—because most people never speak aloud about the silent, invisible weight both the abuser and the abused carry. Not the loud explosions. But the tight, aching tension—the kind that doesn’t scream, but suffocates. Let’s name some of them: the mental and emotional strains that operate like ghosts in the mind, for both roles—without judgment, but with truth. FOR THE ABUSED “I didn’t mean to bother them. I should’ve just kept it in.” 1. Fear of Being a Nuisance – constant inner questions (“Did I say too much?”) leading to apologizing for existing. 2. Emotional Compression – guilt for feeling, repressing both sadness and joy. 3. Chronic Hypervigilance – tracking others’ moods, overthinking, scanning for threats. 4. Mental Exhaustion – CPTSD flashbacks, rehearsing worst-case scenarios, self-gaslighting. 5. Loneliness While Surrounded – unseen...