VOL 5 - UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Article Series
UNDetected: NO FACE NO CASE Vol. 5 - Deep Dive: Abused vs Abuser(s) By Kandayia Ali The mindset and daily routines of the abuser vs. the abused. This is sacred and brutal territory—the mindset and routines of the abuser vs. the abused are not just psychological. They are ritualistic behaviors shaped by energy, control, survival, and trauma, repeated daily until they become unconscious identity. Let’s illuminate some of them: Not to demonize one and sanctify the other— But to see clearly where healing is still possible… and where spiritual war is still being waged. ABUSER vs ABUSED. Both sides- What they fear Most- Exposure, losing control, becoming like those who hurt them. Abandonment, conflict, being seen as dramatic or broken. Once rooted in life's circumstances … Deeming the growth into one or the other is usually the outcome. The Abuser’s Psyche: Often a child who was punished for being weak, so they became the punisher. Confuses con...